JEALOUSY: “AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLERS OF OUR HAPPINESS”

 

How often have you experienced a wave of emotion, stabbing you sharply somewhere down your heart? I can say whenever we experience these sorts of emotion, we feel; we have been robbed of something, something which is impossible to get hold of, making us feel totally helpless. JEALOUSY- a thought in a negative frequency, which may not always come out as an outburst but rots inside our mind/heart, suffocating us with its pungent stench. – Jessica rediar

Now, you may ask me a question; how come, I am so sure that jealously is a negative feeling? I say of course it isJ. Do you experience the feeling of joy, positivity, happiness, contentment when you are jealous of someone? The answer to it is No. Some thoughts can be a root cause of our sorrows and uneasiness. These kinds of thoughts; even if its retained in our mind for short period of time may be harmful and is therefore a negative thought. So, jealousy is a negative feeling, not that we cannot control our thoughts of jealousy, we may have on particular person and his situations or his/her luck.

 THE COMMON REASONS FOR JEALOUSY: COMPARISON

Jealousy may be an outcome of comparison; when we compare ourselves with others (for eg: you may think Mr. Xyz has a nice house, car, perfect health ,loving and adoring wife, lovely kids while I lack in each and every sphere. At this point of time you may create a negative thought for that person, I hate that person. Mr.Xyz is flaunting is wealth and so on… Here, the problem doesn’t lies with Mr. Xyz or him flaunting his riches. It was because of our thoughts of jealousy that led us to dislike an innocent person)

One of my best friends had a break-up recently. She would call me to tell me what her ex-boyfriend did in facebook. She would check her notification every day, to see what he did on facebook. She had a track of each and every new friend he made along with their history, likes, schooling, and location. Moreover the situation worsened when he would make any comment on a picture of any girl. She would call me crying telling how her ex had liked and commented on a picture of a girl. While, he least bothered to even ask her, how she was? She would, cruse and hate the girl. She was jealous and hurt. Here, the problem with my friend was she was holding a naive girl and her ex responsible for her sorrows, while she herself was responsible for her sorrows. The jealousy she had was responsible for her sorrows. Sometimes it is very important for us to view things according to the perspective of others. With my friend and her boyfriend’s break-up, it was expected from my friends ex to move normally with his life, which my friend found very difficult to accept. She was boiling with jealousy and in-fact tormenting and troubling herself.

  It is very important for us to realise that jealousy can do us no good .The sooner we clear ourselves of this feeling, the better. J

Most of us might think lack of jealousy for any person or situation may make us less “AMBITIOUS”. I totally disagree with this sort of thinking.

 Let me give you an example of two best friends, A and B. Both A as well as B were exceptionally good in studies. Both very ambitiously started preparing for their 10^th standard exam. But, there was slight difference in thinking way of both. A was jealous of B. while preparing for exams, A always was scared and would get restless thinking B would out-do her in terms of rank . While, B concentrated on her studies and always resorted to improve her performance than her previous term. She would happily prepare for her exams without bothering for anybody’s rank or position. Both appeared for their exams. Report was out and both A and B scored 89%.But, do you think both were equally happy and enjoyed their process of studying? I don’t think so. A’s thought of jealousy for B; deprived her of the joy and enjoyment she could have experienced, if she would have prepared for her exams with much dedication to herself rather than being jealous of her friend’s progress.

So, friends life’s like that we sometimes deprive ourselves of the joy and happiness, by letting negative thoughts of jealousy to invade our mind and hamper our whole system .It’s impact in our life can be so grave and severe. It can sometimes paralyse our just and rational way of thinking, making us do things which can never be abated nor any sort of repentance can justify or undo our actions. So, one should always be mindful of one’s thinking process. We should always try to avoid being jealous of anyone because jealousy will stab us viciously and will drain the blood of happiness from us and will make us Anaemic and lifeless forever J

Dear readers, I hope you liked my way of depicting this article on “JEALOUSY-AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLER OF OUR HAPPINESS” with the help of examples. These examples are inspired by real life but I have chosen not to name the characters in order to keep their privacy intact. Here, I have made an effort to cite that jealousy is in fact the parasite of happiness.

NOTE FROM WRITER (Jessica Rediar ) : With loveJ

Buddies, you may hold different perspective on the topic of jealousy. Which situations may lead to the thoughts of jealousy in different persons and their intensity and degrees is totally a subjective issues, which is why I have chosen to keep this subjective issues asideJ. In this article I have simply made a point that jealousy is an illegal smuggler of our happiness therefore the thoughts and feelings of jealously should immediately be discarded and closed forever. J

      

 

Friends, I hope you liked reading my article. Please feel free to share it if you like it. Your comments and opinions are heartily welcomedJ. I love to hear from you all, you can also drop in your messages in my facebook pagehttps://www.facebook.com/ExploringMyLittleWorld91. Until then stay happy, spread happiness and stay healthy tk cr J

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EASY TO MAKE- LEMON RICE RECIPE

Are you sick of eating bread or simple curry and rice after your hard day at work? I was almost dead because of eating the old simple recipes, which kept changing its turn in my menu. Until, I found a palatable and easy to make lemon rice recipe to my rescue, which I eat once in 'a while'. when I am too lethargic to cook and when my taste bud demands something yummy and different J

Lemon rice is a popular south Indian cuisine, mostly eaten for lunch. What I like most about preparing this dish is that the ingredients are very easy on availability and it takes barely 10-8 minutes to prepare lemon rice.

Ingredients:

2 tbsp oil.

5-6 curry leaves.

Pinch of mustard seed.

Pinch of Turmeric powder (haldi)

Salt, as per taste.

 Lemon juice (cut 1 or 2 lemon) if you like tangy taste you can take 2 lemons.

Roasted or fried peanuts as per your taste

Cooked rice 250 Grams

METHOD:

STEP 1: Heat a non-stick pan and put oil. Add mustard seed, curry leaves, turmeric powder and salt and stir for about a minute. Now add lemon juice and stir for 30 seconds.

STEP 2: Now, add cooked rice, roasted peanuts in the frying pan and mix well.

Easy to make and tasty lemon rice is ready in no time. Serve hot with curry or curd mixed with onion. Well for me there is no hard -core rule: D.I, like to relax in my living room and savour the taste of lemon rice with a cup of freshly brewed hot coffee J

Hello friends, I hope you all will enjoy the taste of lemon rice. Please give me your feedback after preparing the recipe. You can even drop in your messages in my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/ExploringMyLittleWorld91. For more such easy to make and yummy recipes click in the food section of my blog on the top of the heading section. Until than bye tk cr and “CELEBRATE BEING A FOODIE” J 

ARE YOU A VICTIM OF ISOLATION ? " FIVE EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH ISOLATION "

“Isolation” the word itself brings a shudder down our spine. We generally tend to associate the feeling of being isolated, loneliness as some kind of mental disease. Especially in today’s jet paced pragmatic life, talking about isolation and loneliness has become a taboo. You might feel inferior when you talk about your feelings of isolation, as you may not find people in the same rhythm. You may come across people who are totally ambitious, running after wealth and prospering in their career. So, it may seem futile to talk to people because you may think that they have never been on your shoes. But the problem here doesn't lie with the people around us. It’s within us. Well, we shouldn't be ashamed of our inner feelings. There is no harm in feeling lonely or isolated, every one of us experience loneliness from time to time. Now a question occurs. How do we know that we are experiencing loneliness? Well, our feelings are a direct transmitter of our emotions. For e.g.: Think of your birthday celebration, with the person you love most in your life. Now check your feelings; your happiness will be at its peak, you will experience a deep sense of satisfaction and contentment. Now reverse the scenario, imagine a situation when the person you love most, misses your birthday and even forgets to wish you. Now re-check your feeling, you probably will be oozing with sadness and disappointments. Loneliness comes not necessarily when you're alone, but when you feel as if you don't have someone who really knows you and supports you.

Tormented childhood, bullying by mates, facing ragging during school and college days, break-ups, abusive relationships and marriages, facing constant failures in life, isolation and solitude during old age may be the reasons for experiencing “ISOLATION” in life.

Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone and unwanted – common symptoms of loneliness.                                        
                      One may have a negative attitude toward relationships.

·        Waking up every morning with a feeling of sadness and going off to bed with a same sad feeling.

·     The reason of your sadness lingers on your brain 24x7. No matter how hard you try to avoid those thoughts cropping in your mind; it’s persistent and very stubborn and refuses to leave your mind.

·        Crying and sobbing helplessly for hours.

·        Losing focus, ambitions and zest to work.

·        Feeling of despair about your friendships.

·        Feeling sad about lack of friends.

·        Feelings of anger when other people are happy.

·        The general feeling that you aren't part of "the crowd" or "a group."

·        Feeling as if you aren't accepted in the world.

                          Feeling as if you are "too different" to have friends

       The sooner you identify your problems of isolation, the better J

Now, let me give you a brief idea on what we mostly do, to overcome loneliness. We literally push ourselves into world of activity. Keeping ourselves busy becomes the ultimate motto of our life. We throw ourselves into work, we may even think, “I want to be so busy that I shouldn't have time even to breathe also.” And, what most of us might experience when we dive into series of activities is that we may feel happy and changed due to certain new activities, for first few days. But after few days you might experience those suppressed feelings of yours’ attacking you viciously and crippling your confidence totally. The change will be short-lived because all this while what you try to do is suppress your feelings into the bondage of work. Perhaps, this is because you don’t want to slow down enough to fully realize how lonely you are. (Relax friends; I know keeping ourselves busy can help us overcome our loneliness to some extent. But, if you don’t want to give yourself time to breath, how will you live? ).

Please, don’t live a mechanical life. You should realize the ill effects of constantly agonizing yourself. You may be the victim of depression. You may want to seek relief through drug addiction and alcohol.You should totally avoid such kind of circumstances in your life. Just because you had to experience something bad and tormenting in your life, doesn't mean that you will stop living. Friends, I will guide you through “5 easy ways to deal with isolation”.

JOIN A COURSE- Enroll yourself for some profession or vocational course. The major benefit of it is that you are exposed to a stringent time table. That leaves less time for you to wander your thoughts in negative directions. Joining a class exposes you to group of people and help you inculcate the bond of friendships with fellow class mates. Joining a class gives you a purpose and new direction to your life along with the feeling of self-worth.

MAKE NEW FRIENDS AND RE-ESTABLISH THE LOST CAMARADERIE WITH YOUR OLD BUDDIES -True friends can come as a savior at times of loneliness. You may be surrounded by many friends, yet you may feel lonely (let me give you an example; it’s like being in a musical theatre without hearing and feeling the melody. Life is also like that; you may be surrounded by scores of friends but if you cannot connect to them you won’t able to share your feelings and enjoy your bond). So, make an effort to deepen your connections with your friends and family members.

GET A PET –Get a pet; a dog or a cat. Getting a pet is a great way to shoo away loneliness from your life. Your new addition to your family will brighten up your life and keep you on your heels :D. You will be left to discover new traits and mood swings of your new pet, leaving you overwhelmed and happy from within. Besides, pets provide you their unconditional and selfless love which comes as a healing balm for loneliness.

VOLUNTEER – you can choose to volunteer for a cause you believe in. The cause will link you to many new people. Where, you can meet people who share at least one of your interests. Be a part of group activities and services. Low self-esteem is one of the major symptoms that loneliness accompanies with it. Being a part of a cause will in fact give boost your confidence and fill you with contentment. Moreover serving people who are less privileged than you will help you to value what you have in life.

YOU CAN FIND FRIENDS ONLINE- In today’s virtual world one can look for support online. You may not know your neighbour living next door, but will be connected to unknown persons living miles away from you. All thanks to the magic of the internet J. You can find lasting friendship and real support from people you meet online. You can even create community page online and add your friends and folks which may serve as loneliness fighter and give you some new zest in life. However you should be very cautious as to whom you share your personal information over the internet.

Hello friends, I hope my article will help you. If you like my article, feel free to share it J. Your comments and opinions are heartily welcomed; you can even drop in your feedback and messages in my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/ExploringMyLittleWorld91. I love to hear from you all J. Until than love yourself, stay healthy and spread happiness. Bye tk cr J 

" FIVE EASY WAYS TO GET MOTIVATED "

DREAM BIG, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE IF YOU TRY BECAUSE YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR OWN DESTINY

There may come a point in our life, when we ask ourselves, “What is wrong with me”? What is the reason that is pulling me back? What are the reasons for my failures and inefficiencies? At that point of time you may experience random thoughts attacking you like a buzzing bee, and hurting your heart with its venomous stings. Leaving you; in a “PANIC STATE OF MIND”. If these sorts of thoughts and questions triggers in your mind, at any point of time than self-motivation and self-counselling must be your call. Now, there may be a question running in your brain. Why self-counselling? I say, yes! Why not? You can’t afford to run to a counsellor every time your mind has a panic attack. Even; if you can. I bet you would love least to share your deep dark secrets, fears, anxieties to someone else. Wouldn't it be amazing? That every time, we experience, “Panic Attacks.” We could deal with it ourselves.

My dear friends, in today’s article I will guide you into ways through which you can empower your mind in such a way, that you will be able to withstand any sort of crisis, failures and disappointments. My article is about “FIVE EASY WAYS TO GET MOTIVATED”

Before, starting our steps; let me give you a brief idea on how most of our mind works. One of the major disaster we tend to commit every time is that we think we will fail, we tend to retreat into a cocoon of fear and anxieties. We start comparing our life with that of our friends, kin’s or people we admire. For eg: we may think, my friend is a doctor, he earns well, he has a stable career and his life is promising. In the end we draw a conclusion in our mind that “My friend’s life is perfect”, whereas my life is useless and pathetic. At that point of time, what you do is that you have set your thoughts into a negative frequency. Your fear will in fact create some more fears. Trust me this fear of yours will indeed leave you dejected and in a state of mind where you will want to get everything in a haste. You may even want to jump off your seat and dash directly into your plan of action. But, the problem here is; how long the energy created by you at that point of time will last? Because the energy was out of jealousy, let me simplify it further or out of competitive nature of yours, or out of your own desires. This is your life. Not your friends. So, why compare your life with his/hers?

First, learn to respect yourself (Remember! Here respect doesn’t mean that you will soar high with over-confidence). Accept yourself; the way you are J because that will set you into a correct frequency i.e you will create a positive feeling about yourself. You will be able to channelize your positivity and happiness into a wider array to accomplish your dreams’ I firmly believe “HAPPINESS STARTS FROM WITHIN.” There may be a question in your mind, why a topic of happiness popping up, while we are discussing motivational tips. It’s because first we need to sooth our brain and come out of our inferior attitude. This happens when we accept ourself, and believe in our own capabilities and not compare our life with others. Now, let’s get started J

Step 1: Relax yourself, it’s never too late to start; given you are doing something with lot of perseverance and honesty. Sit in your study. Close your eyes for few minutes. Reflect on things that are bothering you. You will get a crystal clear image of everything you want. It may be things related to your ambitions,your career,business,getting good grades in your acadamics, promotions or simply getting a correct presentation for your office.

Step 2: Get a piece of paper and start writing things that you want to achieve. Get your priorities right. The thing that you want most, must top your list. Now take a piece of paper, big enough (I prefer A4 size paper)  and write what you want most. For eg: I want 98% in my class 10 exams, or I want to heal myself. You should write the things that you want to achieve. You may also add a dash of your creativity in that paper along with your quote. You can use sketch pens to make your diagram all more creative and appealing. J 

Step 3: choose a suitable wall in your room, where you can paste that paper. That paper should be distinctly visible to you, when you wake up in the morning. You can choose to paste it in your study. This paper works like a “MOTIVATION BOOSTER” for your gray matter, it will help in channelizing your energy into things you want to achieve.

Step 4: Now, that you have relaxed your gray matter and got your priorities right and even got a motivation booster for yourself. It’s time to leap into your “Plan of Action”. Discipline and perseverance are inevitable ingredients; which you need to retain in this process. You have to work diligently towards your goal. Take a minute break, every hour to remind yourself of your goals and priorities. You may, ask me. Why a minute reminder? It’s because every time you do it, it signals your brain to be more focused. This in turn will make you more disciplined. Simple and easy concept, isn't it? J

Step 5: I like to call this step “self-counselling and energy retention process” Why energy retention? It’s like having a same flavoured biscuits every day. Confused? Let me make it simple for you. When we work or motivate ourselves to work hard, our energy may be short lived or you may get bore of trying the same stuffs every day (like eating a same flavoured biscuit).After a short phase the energy may evaporate leaving you drained and exhausted. You may, feel like giving up. This should not happen. For this you need to innovate and experiment with the flavours of your choice. Experiment and see which activities can act as driving force or inculcate the attitude of motivation within you. For me reading inspiring auto- biographies, documentaries, books and talking to inspiring friends, helps a lot in getting motivated. You can chose yours’.once you identify your strengths, sky is your limit. J

Hello friends, I hope my article on "FIVE EASY WAYS TO GET MOTIVATED" will help you. If you like my post and want to give your opinion than plz do leave your comments. You can even drop in your messages in my Facebook pagehttps://www.facebook.com/ExploringMyLittleWorld91. Until then bye tk cr. LOVE YOURSELF AND STAY MOTIVATED……J

HOW TO ADD SOCIAL PLUGINS LIKE BOX, IN BLOGGERS- A QUICK GUIDE

Hello friends, today I am going to teach you "HOW TO ADD SOCIAL PLUGIN LIKE BOX, IN BLOGGERS.'' Though, I am not a teach-savvy person. I feel I should be sharing my experience of adding social plugin in my blog. I being no so good in computer knowledge, social plugin really gave me a tough time. With Google and some kind Blogger friends help, I have successfully added social plugin in my blog. So, let’s get started J

Step 1: first login to your bloggers account.

step 2: Go to bloggers dashboard, than go to blogs layout.

Step 3: click on Add a gadget which you can see on the right hand corner. Click on HTML/JAVA SCRIPT

Step 4: Open a new tab and login in to your Facebook account. Click on this link, https://developers.facebook.com/docs/plugins/choose like box. After that you click on get code option. Remember, to replace the link of Facebook developers, with your own page’s link. After that press on get code option. The widget code page will appear like this-

Step 5: copy both the codes and paste it on the HTML/JAVA SCRIPT gadget opened by you. Save it. Go to view the blog option you will see the social plugin like box with name of your page appearing in your blogJ. Simple, isn’t it?

Hello friends, hopefully my post will help you. Please leave your valuable comments; you can drop in your message in my facebook page as well. Until than byee, tk cr.HAPPY BLOGGING J

''6 SIX EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST- BREAK-UP SYNDROMES''

BREAK-UP AND IT'S SAD EFFECTS 

Breaking-up of a relationship may have a different impact on different persons. Break-ups can be categorized into three parts. First case in which both the partner wants to get rid of each other and they are in fact very happy breaking-up, they even throw parties celebrating it. People falling in these categories are blessed because they don’t have to go through emotional traumas, which are mostly experienced by people falling in other two categories. Second case, in which both the partner has to break-up. Due to some given circumstances but neither of the partners is happy breaking-up. Third and the most complicating one, in which either of a partner is not happy breaking-up, and the decision of breaking-up is solely your partners and you are totally clueless about it. And to add fuel to your sorrows your ex is least bothered about you. They are ignoring you all the time, running away from you so as to avoid confronting your questions. While you keep figuring out the reasons for your break-up and emotionally traumatize yourself and form some imaginary conclusions, which keep changing according to your emotional and mental state of mind. Your partner is going on happily with his/her lives as if nothing had actually happened.If you are someone falling in second or third categories you will take some time to heal yourself. Depending on one’s mental strength and will power some may heal quickly and some may take their own suitable time to come out of their past relationship. It’s said time is a best healer. But you must let time heal you; you need to take some steps to overcome your problems. Simply banking on time and letting your mind fight with thousand of mutinies, won’t help you at all. Even if you are successful in moving on with your life, what’s the point because in your consonant battle of moving on with your new life. You will have missed out one of the most important aspect of your life that is ''HAPPINESS''. No matter how strong you may be but the memories of your past will come to haunt you and sometimes it may even leave you in tears.The prolong gap between your break-up to your process of healing is one of most difficult times to handle for most people.This is the time when you to have to work on reviving yourself. If you have been facing post-break-up syndromes or If you have lost your self-confidence and your usual-self in the process of thinking. And have turned into someone whom you never wanted to be. I will guide you through some easy steps by step ways by which you can overcome your problems, revive yourself, gain confidence and bring back your lost smile and happiness that you always deserved.Well,it's time to de-tangle yourself from vicious circles of your emotions and past traumas.lets get STARTED 

STEP 1: First and most important things is to clear –off all the hatred you might have for your ex-partner. Hatred for your ex in -fact creates negativity in your mind. It will not hamper him or her. The negativity you might have for your ex will rather come out as an outburst and affect your near and dear ones leaving you totally dejected and helpless. So, as I say take a deep breath forget that person and repeat these words each for FIVE times ‘’HE/SHE IS GONE GONE  AND GONE‘’ I DON’T CARE ANYMORE’’ and ‘’I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY’’. Now see the magic of your little GREY MATTER you will  feel much relaxed.Now  lets go to step 2.

2. Now that the person has left your grey matter it’s time to kick that person out of your heart too. If you had a break-up the story is over; going back to those old memories will not help at all. Reminiscing may be soothing for a short period of time. But if you do so it will make you weaker from within. Now don’t expect a mills and boons hero (tall,dark,handsome) or miss Jolie(oops!! m sorry i mean mrs piit :d)  type of character to come into your life and change your life into a happy story.This kind of miracle rarely happens in real life: D. You have to help yourself. Nobody is in charge of your happiness except yourself. Just think how much time you have wasted in thinking about that person. Had you implemented this time of yours in your academics, your hobbies your career you could have excelled fairly well. Now it’s time to focus on brighter side of your life. Now that ‘HATRED AND NEGATIVITY IS GONE’ it’s time to welcome POSITIVITY .

                    ''WE ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR OWN THOUGHTS''

some times we need a strong anchor,whom we can trust blindly......................AND THE 

PERSON WHOM WE CAN TRUST BLINDLY IS NONE OTHER THAN OURSELF. SO,WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, BRING BACK THE SPARKLE  INTO YOUR LIFE, IT'S TIME TO BRING BACK THE LOST SMILE,WHICH YOU ALWAYS DESERVED.LOVE YOURSELF :) :)

3.POSITIVITY OUR MAIN AIM. Now the question is how to create positivity? Well I can’t give you a syrup on positivity,which you can gulp in no time and feel positive. I am sorry my friends you need to create it yourself by imbibing good vibes from within your surroundings and you have to follow positivity religiously. You have to be constantly aware of what you are doing, how you are thinking in your day to day life. Let me make it simple for you. FIRST YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY THAN POSITIVITY WILL FOLLOW YOU. We experience happiness when we feel we are cared and loved; which can easily be found in the company of our family or friends or close kins. Try to build your old camaraderie with your family, friends,kins and colleagues. Try to build up the bond of communication with them. Arrange for a surprise dinner parties for your parents. Have luncheon or supper together if you can manage time. Explore your very own little kitchen garden and try beautifying your courtyards with beautiful seasonal flowers. Surprise your friends and colleagues with some white daisies and tulips from your own garden and your small weekend plans. Try contacting your old friends go hiking with them or trekking. Now see in the process of making others happy you end up being much happier yourself. I can guarantee you this option is far better than staying aloof and locking yourself in room filled with horrific gadgets and your dirty smelling clothes.

GO FOR HIKING, MOUNTAIN CLIMBING,WATER RAFTING,SCUBA DIVING

FORGET YOUR PAST IT'S TIME TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS
TAKE A BREAK AND GO FOR ''ADVENTURE SPORTS''

SUM MAGICAL TIPS:For a change avoid watching boring and emotional operas and soaps.Go for stomach and rib tickling comedy movies.One of the major symptoms that break-up brings with it is a craving for emotional songs with lyrics which you can relate to your present state of mind.please avoid locking yourself in a dark room to listen to emotional nerve wracking songs.Go for jogging instead of staying indoors.you can plan shopping with your girlfriends or buddies. Don't worry too much about calories,treat your taste bud once in a while with sum fine dark chocolates.The dark confectioneries is  packed with several chemical compounds that have positive effect on your mood and cognitive health :).I think walking your dog out is far better option than thinking about your ex :D      

4. Well, if you don’t like my above options there are other options to explore as well. Give time to your hobbies. Bring the creative aspect of your talent into forefront.If you wear passionate about music or dancing or painting or sports during your high school but had to give it up for your career option than you can bring your hobbies back into your life and make yourself happy. Hey if you love writing, you can start blogging like me. Trust me it’s in fact a marvelous and easy way to escape negative thoughts from pouring into your head .you can even enrol yourself for four weeks salsa class or any other dance forms (STOP, Fancying about your  partner or teacher! Remember you are there to get rid of your problems not to invite problems: D. You must always avoid falling into a relationship while you are still coping with your past. Give time to yourself before falling in love again. Don’t repeat the mistakes you might have made in your past, give time to your mental state and yourself to heal completely.).Engage yourself in your hobbies and you are sure to bring in happiness into your life.

Well, time for quick 'I CAN' tips: whenever  you feel like giving up while implementing these ways. Repeat these magical words in your head ''I CAN’’.

YOUR EMPATHY CAN ENLIGHTEN THOUSANDS

OF POOR SOUL WITH A RAY OF HOPE

''GO AHEAD MAKE A DIFFERENCE''

5. VOLUNTEERING FOR NGO AS A PART TIME FREE SERVICE: Nothing can surpass the joy we get by helping people those who are less privileged than us. Our show of compassion towards them can bring a great difference in their lives. So what are you waiting for? Make a difference today; offer your free and selfless services to them. Empower poor young children with education, or help aged people to become self-reliant or if you are someone who has extremely helpful nature, with fearless attitude than go to volunteer for disaster management self-help groups. In your quest of escaping your past trauma you will end up finding something totally invaluable and priceless that is MENTAL PEACE AND SATISFACTION’’ by volunteering for NGO’S.

''MEDITATION IS A GREAT WAY TO DE-STRESS AND REJUVENATE  YOURSELF''

6. YOGA, MEDITATIONS: Well if my above ideas are not your cup of tea I still have my trump card savedJ. Yes, meditation and yoga is a great way to relax and de-stress yourself. It helps you to come out of materialistic and worldly bond of enigmas (Maya).it’s a great way to relax, concentrate, revive your self-confidence and manage your anger. As it is said service to mankind is service to GOD’’ so, offering free services in religious centres on weekends is a great idea as well.

Today I have taught  you ‘’SIX SIMPLE WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST-BREAK-UP SYNDROMES’’. I know initially it will be tough for you to implement some drastic and uncalled changes in your life, you may even find that you are enforcing it on yourself. You may feel like going back to your usual self of dismay. But if you follow it religiously and once your new way of life becomes a habit for you than you are sure to hit six :). Friends you can choose my above mentioned steps according to your own conveniences, preferences and follow it according to your own saturation level. I know in today's pragmatic ,self-centered world break-up hardly has an impact in life. Relationship has just become an option to while time.For most people relationships has become a tiara or badge to be flaunted in their friend circles or social media.But if you are someone who still dwell in emotions and cling to sentiments with closed hands than you will seriously be needing some ways to deal with your break-up syndromes. Remember life is a very precious gift given to us by GOD, don’t spoil it, for any reason.

Dear friends, i hope you liked reading my post .I hope you will benefit by implementing it in your life.  If you liked reading it please comment also.For more such posts please stay updated.Until than stay happy, love yourself.feel good about yourself and never give up :) :)

''4 DIFFERENT WAYS TO MAKE YOUR FRIEND FEEL SPECIAL THIS FRIENDSHIP DAY''

Friends the word itself brings a sweet smile on my face. Friendship is one of the most beauteous and most important ingredients for anybody’s life. Ever wondered how our life would be if we had no friends in it, my GOD it’s so hard to imagine. That’s is the reason why our creator MR '' God '' made bittersweet people whom we named friends :D. Friends are those people who give us selfless care, support us in the hardest phase of our life even though they are not related to us by blood. Someone has beautifully said; ''A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND IN DEED.'' A true friend accepts us for the way we are, without being critical about us. They are never there to judge us, but always there to guide us. There are times in our life where we question ourselves, who are our true friends? The answer to it may look very complicating for us to find.But the magic of this question is that it’s the time when we end up finding our true friends. When difficulties sweeps into our lives, our so called fake friends vanishes like black magic and then we end up discovering our true friends’ J .undoubtedly I am blessed with some of the amazing people in my life. Friends are the asset of our life; they are the people who can come as a true inspiration in our life. They can fit in any role; a role of a guide, philosopher, critics, a strict counselor, sometimes even a convalescence mother and agony aunts too: p. They are the people with whom we can share our deep dark secrets with ease and confidence. There are certain things which one can easily confide with their friends rather than their family members. The beauty of true friendship is that it’s packed with so much giving and very little expecting. Unlike other relationships friendship never demands center-stage. It’s very subdued yet has a very magnificent role to play in shaping our life. One of the best things associated with friendship is humour, its aptly said  ''HUMOUR DISSOLVES MORE THAN DIFFERENCES IT ELIMINATES RESERVES, ERADICATES POMPOSITY AND OBLITERATES THE NEED FOR SILLY WHITE LIES'' But a very serious problem with we humans are that we take most precious things we have in our lives  for granted. Let’s not take our silly-billy friends for granted this friendship’s day, make them feel how much you appreciate their presence in your life.

Hey frends!! I will guide you into ''FOUR DIFFERENT WAYS TO MAKE YOUR FRIEND FEEL SPECIAL ON THIS FRIENDSHIP’S DAY''.

   1.YELLOW ROSE: Nothing can surpass the charm and elegance of fresh roses. When it comes to gifting something to your friends, yellow rose tops the charts according to me. The simplicity of your gift will leave your friends with smile. Though some people might find it boring and feminine and waste due to its perishable quality. But trust me your friend will remember your classy bouquet of beautifully hand-dressed yellow rose till eternity.

FRIENDSHIP'S DAY GREETING CARD

  2.   GREETING CARDS: with the invasions of virtual world, people have lost the personal connection. All thanks to wide spread usage of free sms-packs, watsapps. We don’t feel the urge to express ourselves in some formal ways. A short sms saying happy friendship or an e-greeting to your friend is what we mostly do, but these sms always has the threat of being deleted when his/her inbox is full.So, if you want to give your friend something which he or she can cherish even after the special day than ‘GREETING CARD’ must be your pick. In this post I am totally biased about greeting cards because I can’t resist it's old world charm. I personally have carefully treasured beautiful cards given to me by my friend since childhood. I always have Strong urge to look into those beauties one in a while, when I feel low or when I want to relive few precious moments spent with my friends. Let me divulge my card buying secret to you, when I go choosing a card I always go for cards with humorous quotes. It always has a emotional connection to it because even after years your friend( your partner in crime) will be able to recall all the crazy deeds that you shared with your friend

  3.  COFFEE MUGS: Don’t think me mug now for suggesting you to gift your friend a big mug: D. Ya I am not talking about mugs with heart sign or a cute teddy. I meant a mug with your own idiot friend’s pic engraved on it. Blackmailing Pics; these are the pics of your friend taken by you which are so horrific that they have nightmares thinking you might cunningly upload them in facebook. You can add this pic along with other pics(like pics of schooldays, if you are childhood friends than your childhood pictures ) of you and your friend and engrave it on the coffee mug with a sweet quote. I am sure your friend will appreciate your effort and love your gift.

4. MEET YOUR FRIEND AT YOUR FAVOURITE HANGOUT AND SURPRISE HIM/HER: Arrange for a rendezvous with your best pals at you old favourite hangout. From school children to college friends, working people and even old-aged people have their own favourite HANGOUT place. If it’s permitted you can even arrange to meet your friends in your school. As friendship’s day is on Sunday it shouldn't be a problem. Relive the memories of your school days. There you can give your friend something he/she fascinated in school days. For eg:if your friend was a great fan of David Becham in school days gift him a David Becham printed jersey or a football or if your friend had a great crush on Pop singer Darius gift her a big wall poster of Darius. This little gesture is sure to surprise your friend,it might even create a lump in their throat and bring some tears in their eyes ':)

FRIENDS are one of the most precious gifts to us. Express your love, respect, care and make your bond even stronger this friendship’s day

                                                                                     

                                                                           HAPPY FRIENDSHIP’S DAY J HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! J J

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