GROWING UP.....

Reflecting on the backdrop of incidences; 2013 was a year encompassed with nerve-wracking experiences which will leave an everlasting impression on my life. I was tossed under strong whirlpool of nightmares, which had slowly started to engulf the life within me. In short my life was in crisis; I was famished for happiness. My soul was aching to rediscover the vibrant, fun loving and confident person; I once used to be.  No matter how hard I tried, the emotional agony, I was inflicted with refused to leave me. That was when I found writing to be of some relief; I could easily vent my emotions without needing anyone to lend their ears to my emotional state of mind.

Sometimes when the grieving incidence of the present haunts me, I just close my eyes and go back to my childhood days spent in small village of Assam. Life wasn’t either easy there. Being a forest land; bordering Assam and Bhutan, my village was notorious for cradling terrorist, smugglers and some village goons. With no access to proper infrastructure, our village didn’t have water supplies and we had to live on the mercy of our neighbouring country for it. During the times of turmoil, I have seen my family toil hard even to get drinking water. In our village male members of the house had to travel miles to fetch drinking water from the river. While, the females of the household had to walk to the nearest drain like canal to wash cloths and if the water was scarce then they had to even take bath in the filthy water. The canal water would be filled with dirt’s and carcass of dead animals. There was a temple facing the canal and on the way to canal there were butcher shops, where everyday hundreds of slaughters took place. Not to talk about the slaughter of human life. But, the goddess of the temple stood silent in her porch so much like the people of the village. Deaths and murders had become so trivial issues that even children of our village were no longer terrorised by the sound of gun fire. Children of our village had matured more than their age and I know I was one of them.

We had one government school, where the teachers refused to show their face. The walls of the government school were like a crumpling monument, which housed climbers, lizards, insects, dogs and their fossils but not students. Thanks, to a kind educated lady who had started a primary school in my village which was a ray of hope to young children of the village, like me. I remember days when my brother and I were made to sit in veranda to study till the last speck of light of dusk as our village didn’t have electricity. My mother being an educated lady valued the importance of education. No matter the external conflicts going around in my village. I and my brother were made to sit on the bed with a lamp placed on cardboard beside us; we had to stoop to see the books and to get the alphabets correct on the faint dim light of lamp. Another terror apart from the terrorist which struck my village every year was Malaria. Every year malaria; would claim uncountable lives with vicious indifference and apathy. Every summer dispensaries would be packed with sick children, women and men regardless of their status. Summer would bring in the news of malaria sometimes devouring an entire family and leaving uncountable children orphaned. I myself have escaped death many times. My nine years of childhood days were spent battling malaria; due to my Midas fate and never give up attitude, I somehow managed to defeat malaria, but now I have realized that it has come to challenge my immunity to a great extent.

In spite of being in a place full of tensions and turmoil, my childhood days were something to cherish. There was certain calmness which has indeed become very hard for me to find now. I still remember running around my grandpa’s orchids wildly. What a carefree life it was. Sliding on hays meant for cows to discovering hidden treasures inside the tyres kept in the dirty store-room. I remember plotting a scene where my elder brother would act like a pirate, he had even painted his tooth black with marker and another fellow had used a broken glass found discarded on store-room, to give a wicked pirate feel. We had made boats out of tyres' and every time those wicked pirate would threaten us by moving the tyre, me and my friends would shudder with fear. On monsoons we would be ready with our paper boats to sail it in the puddle outside our veranda. But sadly now, I cannot even sail through a small puddle of my life’s trials and tribulations. As I open my eyes I realise life had so much struggles in the past as well. But I had not failed to appreciate its tiny delights at such a tender age. Coming back to my present state now I can truly understand my present situation and it brings a smile on my face because now I know that I am GROWING UP….. 

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'' LIFE IS LIKE THAT ''

'' There was a very famous restaurant and the owner of the restaurant had instructed the waiter to give an equal hospitality to each and every customer that came by. One day the waiter saw a poor beggar helpless and hungry. So, out of pity the waiter fed the beggar. The beggar was overwhelmed by the compassion shown by the waiter and was indebted to the waiter. The beggar never forgot the waiter, but the irony of the situation was that it hardly made any difference to the waiter because for him the beggar was one the regular person he'd met in his everyday life,he had stopped to help the beggar out of pity... I guess life is like that;
'' sometimes we find ourselves in the shoes of the waiter and sometimes in the shoes of the beggar.'' The thing is just that it sometimes rips our soul when we have to play the role of the beggar. But now i know that's called life and it's full of experiences 

This wonderful philosophical view was shared by one of my friend, over a cup of tea 


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'' FINDING OUR REFLECTION IN SOMEONE ELSE ''

Finding a reflection -

I have been blogging since July, 2013 and some 4 months back a reader had commented on  my motivational post and had expressed his opinion about “ FINDING OUR REFLECTION IN SOMEONE ELSE.’’ We exchanged our opinions and after what it seemed like a never ending self-opined debate from both the sides. Our comments ended with a smiley. I had forgotten about all this, but  few days back our conversation came back ringing into my mind and it buzzed like “Finding our reflection in someone else’’

Everyone has their own unique characteristics and identities. We have our own fair share of struggles and sufferings. We shall not forget about happy moments too. Yah! I know we tend to emphasise more on our struggles rather then happy moments experienced by us. In this journey we do make close acquaintance with friends, colleagues’ close kin’s. There are people whom we may have known for ages but still find it very difficult to communicate. Speaking our mind and heart with them may seem like venturing into unknown territory full of doubts. And, sometimes we end up setting a chord with a person whom we have known just for a while. They are the kind of people who have seen the world through the same lens. Tough the intensity or circumstances of pain may have been varied. But it’s with people who has been in the same shoes we can vent our problems without embarrassment. They are the ones who listen to our emotional agony with compassion and empathy. They inspire us selflessly without being judgmental. Their words spread as a healing balm to our bruised soul and you breathe a new lease of life with their unconditional support and affection. That’s when we end up making a relation for lifetime. Though, the journey of life may evaporate their presence. But on a low sultry summer day when you close your eyes with heavy heart, you will strongly recollect the glory of having met “your true reflection someday’’

  

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JEALOUSY: “AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLERS OF OUR HAPPINESS”

 

How often have you experienced a wave of emotion, stabbing you sharply somewhere down your heart? I can say whenever we experience these sorts of emotion, we feel; we have been robbed of something, something which is impossible to get hold of, making us feel totally helpless. JEALOUSY- a thought in a negative frequency, which may not always come out as an outburst but rots inside our mind/heart, suffocating us with its pungent stench. – Jessica rediar

Now, you may ask me a question; how come, I am so sure that jealously is a negative feeling? I say of course it isJ. Do you experience the feeling of joy, positivity, happiness, contentment when you are jealous of someone? The answer to it is No. Some thoughts can be a root cause of our sorrows and uneasiness. These kinds of thoughts; even if its retained in our mind for short period of time may be harmful and is therefore a negative thought. So, jealousy is a negative feeling, not that we cannot control our thoughts of jealousy, we may have on particular person and his situations or his/her luck.

 THE COMMON REASONS FOR JEALOUSY: COMPARISON

Jealousy may be an outcome of comparison; when we compare ourselves with others (for eg: you may think Mr. Xyz has a nice house, car, perfect health ,loving and adoring wife, lovely kids while I lack in each and every sphere. At this point of time you may create a negative thought for that person, I hate that person. Mr.Xyz is flaunting is wealth and so on… Here, the problem doesn’t lies with Mr. Xyz or him flaunting his riches. It was because of our thoughts of jealousy that led us to dislike an innocent person)

One of my best friends had a break-up recently. She would call me to tell me what her ex-boyfriend did in facebook. She would check her notification every day, to see what he did on facebook. She had a track of each and every new friend he made along with their history, likes, schooling, and location. Moreover the situation worsened when he would make any comment on a picture of any girl. She would call me crying telling how her ex had liked and commented on a picture of a girl. While, he least bothered to even ask her, how she was? She would, cruse and hate the girl. She was jealous and hurt. Here, the problem with my friend was she was holding a naive girl and her ex responsible for her sorrows, while she herself was responsible for her sorrows. The jealousy she had was responsible for her sorrows. Sometimes it is very important for us to view things according to the perspective of others. With my friend and her boyfriend’s break-up, it was expected from my friends ex to move normally with his life, which my friend found very difficult to accept. She was boiling with jealousy and in-fact tormenting and troubling herself.

  It is very important for us to realise that jealousy can do us no good .The sooner we clear ourselves of this feeling, the better. J

Most of us might think lack of jealousy for any person or situation may make us less “AMBITIOUS”. I totally disagree with this sort of thinking.

 Let me give you an example of two best friends, A and B. Both A as well as B were exceptionally good in studies. Both very ambitiously started preparing for their 10^th standard exam. But, there was slight difference in thinking way of both. A was jealous of B. while preparing for exams, A always was scared and would get restless thinking B would out-do her in terms of rank . While, B concentrated on her studies and always resorted to improve her performance than her previous term. She would happily prepare for her exams without bothering for anybody’s rank or position. Both appeared for their exams. Report was out and both A and B scored 89%.But, do you think both were equally happy and enjoyed their process of studying? I don’t think so. A’s thought of jealousy for B; deprived her of the joy and enjoyment she could have experienced, if she would have prepared for her exams with much dedication to herself rather than being jealous of her friend’s progress.

So, friends life’s like that we sometimes deprive ourselves of the joy and happiness, by letting negative thoughts of jealousy to invade our mind and hamper our whole system .It’s impact in our life can be so grave and severe. It can sometimes paralyse our just and rational way of thinking, making us do things which can never be abated nor any sort of repentance can justify or undo our actions. So, one should always be mindful of one’s thinking process. We should always try to avoid being jealous of anyone because jealousy will stab us viciously and will drain the blood of happiness from us and will make us Anaemic and lifeless forever J

Dear readers, I hope you liked my way of depicting this article on “JEALOUSY-AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLER OF OUR HAPPINESS” with the help of examples. These examples are inspired by real life but I have chosen not to name the characters in order to keep their privacy intact. Here, I have made an effort to cite that jealousy is in fact the parasite of happiness.

NOTE FROM WRITER (Jessica Rediar ) : With loveJ

Buddies, you may hold different perspective on the topic of jealousy. Which situations may lead to the thoughts of jealousy in different persons and their intensity and degrees is totally a subjective issues, which is why I have chosen to keep this subjective issues asideJ. In this article I have simply made a point that jealousy is an illegal smuggler of our happiness therefore the thoughts and feelings of jealously should immediately be discarded and closed forever. J

      

 

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ARE YOU A VICTIM OF ISOLATION ? " FIVE EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH ISOLATION "

“Isolation” the word itself brings a shudder down our spine. We generally tend to associate the feeling of being isolated, loneliness as some kind of mental disease. Especially in today’s jet paced pragmatic life, talking about isolation and loneliness has become a taboo. You might feel inferior when you talk about your feelings of isolation, as you may not find people in the same rhythm. You may come across people who are totally ambitious, running after wealth and prospering in their career. So, it may seem futile to talk to people because you may think that they have never been on your shoes. But the problem here doesn't lie with the people around us. It’s within us. Well, we shouldn't be ashamed of our inner feelings. There is no harm in feeling lonely or isolated, every one of us experience loneliness from time to time. Now a question occurs. How do we know that we are experiencing loneliness? Well, our feelings are a direct transmitter of our emotions. For e.g.: Think of your birthday celebration, with the person you love most in your life. Now check your feelings; your happiness will be at its peak, you will experience a deep sense of satisfaction and contentment. Now reverse the scenario, imagine a situation when the person you love most, misses your birthday and even forgets to wish you. Now re-check your feeling, you probably will be oozing with sadness and disappointments. Loneliness comes not necessarily when you're alone, but when you feel as if you don't have someone who really knows you and supports you.

Tormented childhood, bullying by mates, facing ragging during school and college days, break-ups, abusive relationships and marriages, facing constant failures in life, isolation and solitude during old age may be the reasons for experiencing “ISOLATION” in life.

Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone and unwanted – common symptoms of loneliness.                                        
                      One may have a negative attitude toward relationships.

·        Waking up every morning with a feeling of sadness and going off to bed with a same sad feeling.

·     The reason of your sadness lingers on your brain 24x7. No matter how hard you try to avoid those thoughts cropping in your mind; it’s persistent and very stubborn and refuses to leave your mind.

·        Crying and sobbing helplessly for hours.

·        Losing focus, ambitions and zest to work.

·        Feeling of despair about your friendships.

·        Feeling sad about lack of friends.

·        Feelings of anger when other people are happy.

·        The general feeling that you aren't part of "the crowd" or "a group."

·        Feeling as if you aren't accepted in the world.

                          Feeling as if you are "too different" to have friends

       The sooner you identify your problems of isolation, the better J

Now, let me give you a brief idea on what we mostly do, to overcome loneliness. We literally push ourselves into world of activity. Keeping ourselves busy becomes the ultimate motto of our life. We throw ourselves into work, we may even think, “I want to be so busy that I shouldn't have time even to breathe also.” And, what most of us might experience when we dive into series of activities is that we may feel happy and changed due to certain new activities, for first few days. But after few days you might experience those suppressed feelings of yours’ attacking you viciously and crippling your confidence totally. The change will be short-lived because all this while what you try to do is suppress your feelings into the bondage of work. Perhaps, this is because you don’t want to slow down enough to fully realize how lonely you are. (Relax friends; I know keeping ourselves busy can help us overcome our loneliness to some extent. But, if you don’t want to give yourself time to breath, how will you live? ).

Please, don’t live a mechanical life. You should realize the ill effects of constantly agonizing yourself. You may be the victim of depression. You may want to seek relief through drug addiction and alcohol.You should totally avoid such kind of circumstances in your life. Just because you had to experience something bad and tormenting in your life, doesn't mean that you will stop living. Friends, I will guide you through “5 easy ways to deal with isolation”.

JOIN A COURSE- Enroll yourself for some profession or vocational course. The major benefit of it is that you are exposed to a stringent time table. That leaves less time for you to wander your thoughts in negative directions. Joining a class exposes you to group of people and help you inculcate the bond of friendships with fellow class mates. Joining a class gives you a purpose and new direction to your life along with the feeling of self-worth.

MAKE NEW FRIENDS AND RE-ESTABLISH THE LOST CAMARADERIE WITH YOUR OLD BUDDIES -True friends can come as a savior at times of loneliness. You may be surrounded by many friends, yet you may feel lonely (let me give you an example; it’s like being in a musical theatre without hearing and feeling the melody. Life is also like that; you may be surrounded by scores of friends but if you cannot connect to them you won’t able to share your feelings and enjoy your bond). So, make an effort to deepen your connections with your friends and family members.

GET A PET –Get a pet; a dog or a cat. Getting a pet is a great way to shoo away loneliness from your life. Your new addition to your family will brighten up your life and keep you on your heels :D. You will be left to discover new traits and mood swings of your new pet, leaving you overwhelmed and happy from within. Besides, pets provide you their unconditional and selfless love which comes as a healing balm for loneliness.

VOLUNTEER – you can choose to volunteer for a cause you believe in. The cause will link you to many new people. Where, you can meet people who share at least one of your interests. Be a part of group activities and services. Low self-esteem is one of the major symptoms that loneliness accompanies with it. Being a part of a cause will in fact give boost your confidence and fill you with contentment. Moreover serving people who are less privileged than you will help you to value what you have in life.

YOU CAN FIND FRIENDS ONLINE- In today’s virtual world one can look for support online. You may not know your neighbour living next door, but will be connected to unknown persons living miles away from you. All thanks to the magic of the internet J. You can find lasting friendship and real support from people you meet online. You can even create community page online and add your friends and folks which may serve as loneliness fighter and give you some new zest in life. However you should be very cautious as to whom you share your personal information over the internet.

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''6 SIX EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST- BREAK-UP SYNDROMES''

BREAK-UP AND IT'S SAD EFFECTS 

Breaking-up of a relationship may have a different impact on different persons. Break-ups can be categorized into three parts. First case in which both the partner wants to get rid of each other and they are in fact very happy breaking-up, they even throw parties celebrating it. People falling in these categories are blessed because they don’t have to go through emotional traumas, which are mostly experienced by people falling in other two categories. Second case, in which both the partner has to break-up. Due to some given circumstances but neither of the partners is happy breaking-up. Third and the most complicating one, in which either of a partner is not happy breaking-up, and the decision of breaking-up is solely your partners and you are totally clueless about it. And to add fuel to your sorrows your ex is least bothered about you. They are ignoring you all the time, running away from you so as to avoid confronting your questions. While you keep figuring out the reasons for your break-up and emotionally traumatize yourself and form some imaginary conclusions, which keep changing according to your emotional and mental state of mind. Your partner is going on happily with his/her lives as if nothing had actually happened.If you are someone falling in second or third categories you will take some time to heal yourself. Depending on one’s mental strength and will power some may heal quickly and some may take their own suitable time to come out of their past relationship. It’s said time is a best healer. But you must let time heal you; you need to take some steps to overcome your problems. Simply banking on time and letting your mind fight with thousand of mutinies, won’t help you at all. Even if you are successful in moving on with your life, what’s the point because in your consonant battle of moving on with your new life. You will have missed out one of the most important aspect of your life that is ''HAPPINESS''. No matter how strong you may be but the memories of your past will come to haunt you and sometimes it may even leave you in tears.The prolong gap between your break-up to your process of healing is one of most difficult times to handle for most people.This is the time when you to have to work on reviving yourself. If you have been facing post-break-up syndromes or If you have lost your self-confidence and your usual-self in the process of thinking. And have turned into someone whom you never wanted to be. I will guide you through some easy steps by step ways by which you can overcome your problems, revive yourself, gain confidence and bring back your lost smile and happiness that you always deserved.Well,it's time to de-tangle yourself from vicious circles of your emotions and past traumas.lets get STARTED 

STEP 1: First and most important things is to clear –off all the hatred you might have for your ex-partner. Hatred for your ex in -fact creates negativity in your mind. It will not hamper him or her. The negativity you might have for your ex will rather come out as an outburst and affect your near and dear ones leaving you totally dejected and helpless. So, as I say take a deep breath forget that person and repeat these words each for FIVE times ‘’HE/SHE IS GONE GONE  AND GONE‘’ I DON’T CARE ANYMORE’’ and ‘’I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY’’. Now see the magic of your little GREY MATTER you will  feel much relaxed.Now  lets go to step 2.

2. Now that the person has left your grey matter it’s time to kick that person out of your heart too. If you had a break-up the story is over; going back to those old memories will not help at all. Reminiscing may be soothing for a short period of time. But if you do so it will make you weaker from within. Now don’t expect a mills and boons hero (tall,dark,handsome) or miss Jolie(oops!! m sorry i mean mrs piit :d)  type of character to come into your life and change your life into a happy story.This kind of miracle rarely happens in real life: D. You have to help yourself. Nobody is in charge of your happiness except yourself. Just think how much time you have wasted in thinking about that person. Had you implemented this time of yours in your academics, your hobbies your career you could have excelled fairly well. Now it’s time to focus on brighter side of your life. Now that ‘HATRED AND NEGATIVITY IS GONE’ it’s time to welcome POSITIVITY .

                    ''WE ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR OWN THOUGHTS''

some times we need a strong anchor,whom we can trust blindly......................AND THE 

PERSON WHOM WE CAN TRUST BLINDLY IS NONE OTHER THAN OURSELF. SO,WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, BRING BACK THE SPARKLE  INTO YOUR LIFE, IT'S TIME TO BRING BACK THE LOST SMILE,WHICH YOU ALWAYS DESERVED.LOVE YOURSELF :) :)

3.POSITIVITY OUR MAIN AIM. Now the question is how to create positivity? Well I can’t give you a syrup on positivity,which you can gulp in no time and feel positive. I am sorry my friends you need to create it yourself by imbibing good vibes from within your surroundings and you have to follow positivity religiously. You have to be constantly aware of what you are doing, how you are thinking in your day to day life. Let me make it simple for you. FIRST YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY THAN POSITIVITY WILL FOLLOW YOU. We experience happiness when we feel we are cared and loved; which can easily be found in the company of our family or friends or close kins. Try to build your old camaraderie with your family, friends,kins and colleagues. Try to build up the bond of communication with them. Arrange for a surprise dinner parties for your parents. Have luncheon or supper together if you can manage time. Explore your very own little kitchen garden and try beautifying your courtyards with beautiful seasonal flowers. Surprise your friends and colleagues with some white daisies and tulips from your own garden and your small weekend plans. Try contacting your old friends go hiking with them or trekking. Now see in the process of making others happy you end up being much happier yourself. I can guarantee you this option is far better than staying aloof and locking yourself in room filled with horrific gadgets and your dirty smelling clothes.

GO FOR HIKING, MOUNTAIN CLIMBING,WATER RAFTING,SCUBA DIVING

FORGET YOUR PAST IT'S TIME TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS
TAKE A BREAK AND GO FOR ''ADVENTURE SPORTS''

SUM MAGICAL TIPS:For a change avoid watching boring and emotional operas and soaps.Go for stomach and rib tickling comedy movies.One of the major symptoms that break-up brings with it is a craving for emotional songs with lyrics which you can relate to your present state of mind.please avoid locking yourself in a dark room to listen to emotional nerve wracking songs.Go for jogging instead of staying indoors.you can plan shopping with your girlfriends or buddies. Don't worry too much about calories,treat your taste bud once in a while with sum fine dark chocolates.The dark confectioneries is  packed with several chemical compounds that have positive effect on your mood and cognitive health :).I think walking your dog out is far better option than thinking about your ex :D      

4. Well, if you don’t like my above options there are other options to explore as well. Give time to your hobbies. Bring the creative aspect of your talent into forefront.If you wear passionate about music or dancing or painting or sports during your high school but had to give it up for your career option than you can bring your hobbies back into your life and make yourself happy. Hey if you love writing, you can start blogging like me. Trust me it’s in fact a marvelous and easy way to escape negative thoughts from pouring into your head .you can even enrol yourself for four weeks salsa class or any other dance forms (STOP, Fancying about your  partner or teacher! Remember you are there to get rid of your problems not to invite problems: D. You must always avoid falling into a relationship while you are still coping with your past. Give time to yourself before falling in love again. Don’t repeat the mistakes you might have made in your past, give time to your mental state and yourself to heal completely.).Engage yourself in your hobbies and you are sure to bring in happiness into your life.

Well, time for quick 'I CAN' tips: whenever  you feel like giving up while implementing these ways. Repeat these magical words in your head ''I CAN’’.

YOUR EMPATHY CAN ENLIGHTEN THOUSANDS

OF POOR SOUL WITH A RAY OF HOPE

''GO AHEAD MAKE A DIFFERENCE''

5. VOLUNTEERING FOR NGO AS A PART TIME FREE SERVICE: Nothing can surpass the joy we get by helping people those who are less privileged than us. Our show of compassion towards them can bring a great difference in their lives. So what are you waiting for? Make a difference today; offer your free and selfless services to them. Empower poor young children with education, or help aged people to become self-reliant or if you are someone who has extremely helpful nature, with fearless attitude than go to volunteer for disaster management self-help groups. In your quest of escaping your past trauma you will end up finding something totally invaluable and priceless that is MENTAL PEACE AND SATISFACTION’’ by volunteering for NGO’S.

''MEDITATION IS A GREAT WAY TO DE-STRESS AND REJUVENATE  YOURSELF''

6. YOGA, MEDITATIONS: Well if my above ideas are not your cup of tea I still have my trump card savedJ. Yes, meditation and yoga is a great way to relax and de-stress yourself. It helps you to come out of materialistic and worldly bond of enigmas (Maya).it’s a great way to relax, concentrate, revive your self-confidence and manage your anger. As it is said service to mankind is service to GOD’’ so, offering free services in religious centres on weekends is a great idea as well.

Today I have taught  you ‘’SIX SIMPLE WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST-BREAK-UP SYNDROMES’’. I know initially it will be tough for you to implement some drastic and uncalled changes in your life, you may even find that you are enforcing it on yourself. You may feel like going back to your usual self of dismay. But if you follow it religiously and once your new way of life becomes a habit for you than you are sure to hit six :). Friends you can choose my above mentioned steps according to your own conveniences, preferences and follow it according to your own saturation level. I know in today's pragmatic ,self-centered world break-up hardly has an impact in life. Relationship has just become an option to while time.For most people relationships has become a tiara or badge to be flaunted in their friend circles or social media.But if you are someone who still dwell in emotions and cling to sentiments with closed hands than you will seriously be needing some ways to deal with your break-up syndromes. Remember life is a very precious gift given to us by GOD, don’t spoil it, for any reason.

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''4 DIFFERENT WAYS TO MAKE YOUR FRIEND FEEL SPECIAL THIS FRIENDSHIP DAY''

Friends the word itself brings a sweet smile on my face. Friendship is one of the most beauteous and most important ingredients for anybody’s life. Ever wondered how our life would be if we had no friends in it, my GOD it’s so hard to imagine. That’s is the reason why our creator MR '' God '' made bittersweet people whom we named friends :D. Friends are those people who give us selfless care, support us in the hardest phase of our life even though they are not related to us by blood. Someone has beautifully said; ''A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND IN DEED.'' A true friend accepts us for the way we are, without being critical about us. They are never there to judge us, but always there to guide us. There are times in our life where we question ourselves, who are our true friends? The answer to it may look very complicating for us to find.But the magic of this question is that it’s the time when we end up finding our true friends. When difficulties sweeps into our lives, our so called fake friends vanishes like black magic and then we end up discovering our true friends’ J .undoubtedly I am blessed with some of the amazing people in my life. Friends are the asset of our life; they are the people who can come as a true inspiration in our life. They can fit in any role; a role of a guide, philosopher, critics, a strict counselor, sometimes even a convalescence mother and agony aunts too: p. They are the people with whom we can share our deep dark secrets with ease and confidence. There are certain things which one can easily confide with their friends rather than their family members. The beauty of true friendship is that it’s packed with so much giving and very little expecting. Unlike other relationships friendship never demands center-stage. It’s very subdued yet has a very magnificent role to play in shaping our life. One of the best things associated with friendship is humour, its aptly said  ''HUMOUR DISSOLVES MORE THAN DIFFERENCES IT ELIMINATES RESERVES, ERADICATES POMPOSITY AND OBLITERATES THE NEED FOR SILLY WHITE LIES'' But a very serious problem with we humans are that we take most precious things we have in our lives  for granted. Let’s not take our silly-billy friends for granted this friendship’s day, make them feel how much you appreciate their presence in your life.

Hey frends!! I will guide you into ''FOUR DIFFERENT WAYS TO MAKE YOUR FRIEND FEEL SPECIAL ON THIS FRIENDSHIP’S DAY''.

   1.YELLOW ROSE: Nothing can surpass the charm and elegance of fresh roses. When it comes to gifting something to your friends, yellow rose tops the charts according to me. The simplicity of your gift will leave your friends with smile. Though some people might find it boring and feminine and waste due to its perishable quality. But trust me your friend will remember your classy bouquet of beautifully hand-dressed yellow rose till eternity.

FRIENDSHIP'S DAY GREETING CARD

  2.   GREETING CARDS: with the invasions of virtual world, people have lost the personal connection. All thanks to wide spread usage of free sms-packs, watsapps. We don’t feel the urge to express ourselves in some formal ways. A short sms saying happy friendship or an e-greeting to your friend is what we mostly do, but these sms always has the threat of being deleted when his/her inbox is full.So, if you want to give your friend something which he or she can cherish even after the special day than ‘GREETING CARD’ must be your pick. In this post I am totally biased about greeting cards because I can’t resist it's old world charm. I personally have carefully treasured beautiful cards given to me by my friend since childhood. I always have Strong urge to look into those beauties one in a while, when I feel low or when I want to relive few precious moments spent with my friends. Let me divulge my card buying secret to you, when I go choosing a card I always go for cards with humorous quotes. It always has a emotional connection to it because even after years your friend( your partner in crime) will be able to recall all the crazy deeds that you shared with your friend

  3.  COFFEE MUGS: Don’t think me mug now for suggesting you to gift your friend a big mug: D. Ya I am not talking about mugs with heart sign or a cute teddy. I meant a mug with your own idiot friend’s pic engraved on it. Blackmailing Pics; these are the pics of your friend taken by you which are so horrific that they have nightmares thinking you might cunningly upload them in facebook. You can add this pic along with other pics(like pics of schooldays, if you are childhood friends than your childhood pictures ) of you and your friend and engrave it on the coffee mug with a sweet quote. I am sure your friend will appreciate your effort and love your gift.

4. MEET YOUR FRIEND AT YOUR FAVOURITE HANGOUT AND SURPRISE HIM/HER: Arrange for a rendezvous with your best pals at you old favourite hangout. From school children to college friends, working people and even old-aged people have their own favourite HANGOUT place. If it’s permitted you can even arrange to meet your friends in your school. As friendship’s day is on Sunday it shouldn't be a problem. Relive the memories of your school days. There you can give your friend something he/she fascinated in school days. For eg:if your friend was a great fan of David Becham in school days gift him a David Becham printed jersey or a football or if your friend had a great crush on Pop singer Darius gift her a big wall poster of Darius. This little gesture is sure to surprise your friend,it might even create a lump in their throat and bring some tears in their eyes ':)

FRIENDS are one of the most precious gifts to us. Express your love, respect, care and make your bond even stronger this friendship’s day

                                                                                     

                                                                           HAPPY FRIENDSHIP’S DAY J HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! J J

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