''6 SIX EASY WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST- BREAK-UP SYNDROMES''

BREAK-UP AND IT'S SAD EFFECTS 

Breaking-up of a relationship may have a different impact on different persons. Break-ups can be categorized into three parts. First case in which both the partner wants to get rid of each other and they are in fact very happy breaking-up, they even throw parties celebrating it. People falling in these categories are blessed because they don’t have to go through emotional traumas, which are mostly experienced by people falling in other two categories. Second case, in which both the partner has to break-up. Due to some given circumstances but neither of the partners is happy breaking-up. Third and the most complicating one, in which either of a partner is not happy breaking-up, and the decision of breaking-up is solely your partners and you are totally clueless about it. And to add fuel to your sorrows your ex is least bothered about you. They are ignoring you all the time, running away from you so as to avoid confronting your questions. While you keep figuring out the reasons for your break-up and emotionally traumatize yourself and form some imaginary conclusions, which keep changing according to your emotional and mental state of mind. Your partner is going on happily with his/her lives as if nothing had actually happened.If you are someone falling in second or third categories you will take some time to heal yourself. Depending on one’s mental strength and will power some may heal quickly and some may take their own suitable time to come out of their past relationship. It’s said time is a best healer. But you must let time heal you; you need to take some steps to overcome your problems. Simply banking on time and letting your mind fight with thousand of mutinies, won’t help you at all. Even if you are successful in moving on with your life, what’s the point because in your consonant battle of moving on with your new life. You will have missed out one of the most important aspect of your life that is ''HAPPINESS''. No matter how strong you may be but the memories of your past will come to haunt you and sometimes it may even leave you in tears.The prolong gap between your break-up to your process of healing is one of most difficult times to handle for most people.This is the time when you to have to work on reviving yourself. If you have been facing post-break-up syndromes or If you have lost your self-confidence and your usual-self in the process of thinking. And have turned into someone whom you never wanted to be. I will guide you through some easy steps by step ways by which you can overcome your problems, revive yourself, gain confidence and bring back your lost smile and happiness that you always deserved.Well,it's time to de-tangle yourself from vicious circles of your emotions and past traumas.lets get STARTED 

STEP 1: First and most important things is to clear –off all the hatred you might have for your ex-partner. Hatred for your ex in -fact creates negativity in your mind. It will not hamper him or her. The negativity you might have for your ex will rather come out as an outburst and affect your near and dear ones leaving you totally dejected and helpless. So, as I say take a deep breath forget that person and repeat these words each for FIVE times ‘’HE/SHE IS GONE GONE  AND GONE‘’ I DON’T CARE ANYMORE’’ and ‘’I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY’’. Now see the magic of your little GREY MATTER you will  feel much relaxed.Now  lets go to step 2.

2. Now that the person has left your grey matter it’s time to kick that person out of your heart too. If you had a break-up the story is over; going back to those old memories will not help at all. Reminiscing may be soothing for a short period of time. But if you do so it will make you weaker from within. Now don’t expect a mills and boons hero (tall,dark,handsome) or miss Jolie(oops!! m sorry i mean mrs piit :d)  type of character to come into your life and change your life into a happy story.This kind of miracle rarely happens in real life: D. You have to help yourself. Nobody is in charge of your happiness except yourself. Just think how much time you have wasted in thinking about that person. Had you implemented this time of yours in your academics, your hobbies your career you could have excelled fairly well. Now it’s time to focus on brighter side of your life. Now that ‘HATRED AND NEGATIVITY IS GONE’ it’s time to welcome POSITIVITY .

                    ''WE ARE THE MASTERS OF OUR OWN THOUGHTS''

some times we need a strong anchor,whom we can trust blindly......................AND THE 

PERSON WHOM WE CAN TRUST BLINDLY IS NONE OTHER THAN OURSELF. SO,WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, BRING BACK THE SPARKLE  INTO YOUR LIFE, IT'S TIME TO BRING BACK THE LOST SMILE,WHICH YOU ALWAYS DESERVED.LOVE YOURSELF :) :)

3.POSITIVITY OUR MAIN AIM. Now the question is how to create positivity? Well I can’t give you a syrup on positivity,which you can gulp in no time and feel positive. I am sorry my friends you need to create it yourself by imbibing good vibes from within your surroundings and you have to follow positivity religiously. You have to be constantly aware of what you are doing, how you are thinking in your day to day life. Let me make it simple for you. FIRST YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY THAN POSITIVITY WILL FOLLOW YOU. We experience happiness when we feel we are cared and loved; which can easily be found in the company of our family or friends or close kins. Try to build your old camaraderie with your family, friends,kins and colleagues. Try to build up the bond of communication with them. Arrange for a surprise dinner parties for your parents. Have luncheon or supper together if you can manage time. Explore your very own little kitchen garden and try beautifying your courtyards with beautiful seasonal flowers. Surprise your friends and colleagues with some white daisies and tulips from your own garden and your small weekend plans. Try contacting your old friends go hiking with them or trekking. Now see in the process of making others happy you end up being much happier yourself. I can guarantee you this option is far better than staying aloof and locking yourself in room filled with horrific gadgets and your dirty smelling clothes.

GO FOR HIKING, MOUNTAIN CLIMBING,WATER RAFTING,SCUBA DIVING

FORGET YOUR PAST IT'S TIME TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS
TAKE A BREAK AND GO FOR ''ADVENTURE SPORTS''

SUM MAGICAL TIPS:For a change avoid watching boring and emotional operas and soaps.Go for stomach and rib tickling comedy movies.One of the major symptoms that break-up brings with it is a craving for emotional songs with lyrics which you can relate to your present state of mind.please avoid locking yourself in a dark room to listen to emotional nerve wracking songs.Go for jogging instead of staying indoors.you can plan shopping with your girlfriends or buddies. Don't worry too much about calories,treat your taste bud once in a while with sum fine dark chocolates.The dark confectioneries is  packed with several chemical compounds that have positive effect on your mood and cognitive health :).I think walking your dog out is far better option than thinking about your ex :D      

4. Well, if you don’t like my above options there are other options to explore as well. Give time to your hobbies. Bring the creative aspect of your talent into forefront.If you wear passionate about music or dancing or painting or sports during your high school but had to give it up for your career option than you can bring your hobbies back into your life and make yourself happy. Hey if you love writing, you can start blogging like me. Trust me it’s in fact a marvelous and easy way to escape negative thoughts from pouring into your head .you can even enrol yourself for four weeks salsa class or any other dance forms (STOP, Fancying about your  partner or teacher! Remember you are there to get rid of your problems not to invite problems: D. You must always avoid falling into a relationship while you are still coping with your past. Give time to yourself before falling in love again. Don’t repeat the mistakes you might have made in your past, give time to your mental state and yourself to heal completely.).Engage yourself in your hobbies and you are sure to bring in happiness into your life.

Well, time for quick 'I CAN' tips: whenever  you feel like giving up while implementing these ways. Repeat these magical words in your head ''I CAN’’.

YOUR EMPATHY CAN ENLIGHTEN THOUSANDS

OF POOR SOUL WITH A RAY OF HOPE

''GO AHEAD MAKE A DIFFERENCE''

5. VOLUNTEERING FOR NGO AS A PART TIME FREE SERVICE: Nothing can surpass the joy we get by helping people those who are less privileged than us. Our show of compassion towards them can bring a great difference in their lives. So what are you waiting for? Make a difference today; offer your free and selfless services to them. Empower poor young children with education, or help aged people to become self-reliant or if you are someone who has extremely helpful nature, with fearless attitude than go to volunteer for disaster management self-help groups. In your quest of escaping your past trauma you will end up finding something totally invaluable and priceless that is MENTAL PEACE AND SATISFACTION’’ by volunteering for NGO’S.

''MEDITATION IS A GREAT WAY TO DE-STRESS AND REJUVENATE  YOURSELF''

6. YOGA, MEDITATIONS: Well if my above ideas are not your cup of tea I still have my trump card savedJ. Yes, meditation and yoga is a great way to relax and de-stress yourself. It helps you to come out of materialistic and worldly bond of enigmas (Maya).it’s a great way to relax, concentrate, revive your self-confidence and manage your anger. As it is said service to mankind is service to GOD’’ so, offering free services in religious centres on weekends is a great idea as well.

Today I have taught  you ‘’SIX SIMPLE WAYS TO DEAL WITH POST-BREAK-UP SYNDROMES’’. I know initially it will be tough for you to implement some drastic and uncalled changes in your life, you may even find that you are enforcing it on yourself. You may feel like going back to your usual self of dismay. But if you follow it religiously and once your new way of life becomes a habit for you than you are sure to hit six :). Friends you can choose my above mentioned steps according to your own conveniences, preferences and follow it according to your own saturation level. I know in today's pragmatic ,self-centered world break-up hardly has an impact in life. Relationship has just become an option to while time.For most people relationships has become a tiara or badge to be flaunted in their friend circles or social media.But if you are someone who still dwell in emotions and cling to sentiments with closed hands than you will seriously be needing some ways to deal with your break-up syndromes. Remember life is a very precious gift given to us by GOD, don’t spoil it, for any reason.

Dear friends, i hope you liked reading my post .I hope you will benefit by implementing it in your life.  If you liked reading it please comment also.For more such posts please stay updated.Until than stay happy, love yourself.feel good about yourself and never give up :) :)