JEALOUSY: “AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLERS OF OUR HAPPINESS”
How often
have you experienced a wave of emotion, stabbing you sharply somewhere down
your heart? I can say whenever we experience these sorts of emotion, we feel;
we have been robbed of something, something which is impossible to get hold of,
making us feel totally helpless. JEALOUSY- a thought in
a negative frequency, which may not always come out as an outburst but rots
inside our mind/heart, suffocating us with its pungent stench. – Jessica rediar
Now, you may ask me a question; how come, I am so sure
that jealously is a negative feeling? I say of course it isJ. Do you experience the feeling of joy,
positivity, happiness, contentment when you are jealous of someone? The answer
to it is No. Some thoughts can be a root cause of our sorrows and uneasiness.
These kinds of thoughts; even if its retained in our mind for short period of
time may be harmful and is therefore a negative thought. So, jealousy is a
negative feeling, not that we cannot control our thoughts of jealousy, we may
have on particular person and his situations or his/her luck.
THE COMMON REASONS FOR JEALOUSY:
Jealousy may be an outcome of comparison;
when we compare ourselves with others (for eg: you may think Mr. Xyz has a nice house, car, perfect health
,loving and adoring wife, lovely kids while I lack in each and every sphere. At
this point of time you may create a negative thought for that person, I hate
that person. Mr.Xyz is flaunting is wealth and so on…
Here, the problem doesn’t lies with Mr. Xyz or him
flaunting his riches. It was because of our thoughts of jealousy that led us to
dislike an innocent person)
One of my best friends had a break-up recently. She
would call me to tell me what her ex-boyfriend did in facebook. She would check
her notification every day, to see what he did on facebook. She had a track of
each and every new friend he made along with their history, likes, schooling, and
location. Moreover the situation worsened when he would make any comment on a
picture of any girl. She would call me crying telling how her ex had liked and
commented on a picture of a girl. While, he least bothered to even ask her, how
she was? She would, cruse and hate the girl. She was jealous and hurt. Here,
the problem with my friend was she was holding a naive girl and her ex
responsible for her sorrows, while she herself was
responsible for her sorrows. The
jealousy she had was responsible for her sorrows. Sometimes it is very
important for us to view things according to the perspective
of others. With my friend and
her boyfriend’s break-up, it was expected from my friends ex to move normally
with his life, which my friend found very difficult to accept. She was boiling
with jealousy and in-fact tormenting and troubling herself.
It is very important for us to realise that
jealousy can do us no good .The sooner we clear ourselves of this feeling, the
better. J
Most of us
might think lack of jealousy for any person or situation may make us less “AMBITIOUS”. I totally disagree with this sort of thinking.
Let me give you an
example of two best friends, A and B. Both A as well as B were exceptionally
good in studies. Both very ambitiously started preparing for their 10th
standard exam. But, there was slight difference in thinking way of both. A was
jealous of B. while preparing for exams, A always was scared and would get
restless thinking B would out-do her in terms of rank . While, B concentrated on her studies and always resorted to improve her performance
than her previous term. She
would happily prepare for her exams without bothering for anybody’s rank or
position. Both appeared for their exams. Report was out and both A and B scored
89%.But, do you think both were equally happy and enjoyed their process of
studying? I don’t think so. A’s thought of jealousy for B; deprived her of the
joy and enjoyment she could have experienced, if she would have prepared for
her exams with much dedication to herself rather than being jealous of her
friend’s progress.
So, friends
life’s like that we sometimes deprive ourselves of the joy and happiness, by
letting negative thoughts of jealousy to invade our mind and hamper our whole
system .It’s impact in our life can be so grave and severe. It can sometimes paralyse
our just and rational way of thinking, making us do things which can never be
abated nor any sort of repentance can justify or undo our actions. So, one
should always be mindful of one’s thinking process. We should always try to
avoid being jealous of anyone because jealousy will stab us viciously and
will drain the blood of happiness from us and will make us Anaemic and lifeless forever J
Dear readers, I hope you liked my
way of depicting this article on “JEALOUSY-AN ILLEGAL SMUGGLER OF OUR HAPPINESS”
with the help of examples. These examples are inspired by real life but I have
chosen not to name the characters in order to keep their privacy intact. Here,
I have made an effort to cite that jealousy is in fact the parasite of
happiness.
NOTE FROM
WRITER (Jessica Rediar ) : With loveJ
Buddies, you may hold different
perspective on the topic of jealousy. Which situations may lead to the thoughts
of jealousy in different persons and their intensity and degrees is totally a subjective issues, which is why
I have chosen to keep this subjective issues asideJ. In this article I have simply made
a point that jealousy is an illegal smuggler of our happiness therefore the
thoughts and feelings of jealously should immediately be
discarded and closed forever. J
Friends, I
hope you liked reading my article. Please feel free to share it if you like it.
Your comments and opinions are heartily welcomedJ. I love to hear from you all, you can also drop
in your messages in my facebook pagehttps://www.facebook.com/ExploringMyLittleWorld91. Until then stay happy, spread happiness
and stay healthy tk cr J
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